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Dammit, Big Love...and other fandom stuff...and Dad!Marcs
I'm not going to post spoilers, but damnit Big Love!
You just had to close your episode with "Forever Young" by Alphaville, didn't you? You just had to.
It's the one 80s synth-pop song guaranteed to make me burst into tears every. single. time. And then to throw it in like a sucker-punch right there are the end...
WAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!
(Actually, maybe I should blame David Byrne since he's the one who's responsible for the music on Big Love.)
And Nikki...WAAAAAAAHHHHHH! You're breaking my heart!
In other news, the fourth (or is it the fifth or sixth) debate round of white privilege, cultural appropriation, and racism in fandom has officially made me paranoid.
Ooooooh, no. I'm not getting involved. I poke my head up over the edge of that foxhole, I'm liable to get it shot off. I'm just going to keep my head down and avoid being beheaded, thanks.
It doesn't help that I can kinda see all sides here, BTW. I almost want to call for a Reconciliation Committee so everyone can just talk this shit out. I blame my UU soul for this kneejerk response.
In any case, good ol' Eva Swithin has once again (and finally) started tapping me on the shoulder because last we all saw her, she was stranded on the Mali Sahel with with the dire choice in front of her.
Except with all the yelling going on, I'm now officially paranoid about moving forward and fixing up those final nearly incomprehensible chapters of Facing the Heart in Darkness.
Gah!
I know, I know. It looks so bloody self-centered, doesn't it? Doesn't matter that there are legitimate grievances being aired and hurt feelings being felt on all sides of the multi-faceted fight that's been on-going now for (*checks watch*) weeks. Oh, no. I'm worried about my fanfiction. [/self-directed sarcasm]
Finally, just got back from a weekend with the 'rents. Dad is up and hobbling around.
But, he does want me to pass on a message:
While he appreciates all of your helpful advice, he would like to say this: "You all lie and your feet stink!"
(Oh, wait. That may have been directed at me...)
He has declared that he will throw himself on a grenade rather than go through the knee replacement operation again for his other knee. He will throw himself on a grenade rather than let anyone he actually cares about go through with a knee replacement operation.
However, if someone he doesn't like decides to go through with it, he will point, laugh, and buy popcorn for the sheer entertainment of it.
After the past two weeks of watching (and hearing) my Dad deal with the pain of replacement body parts, I've decided to hold out until they can grow cartilage in petri dish with some lovely stem cells as a base and inject it into troublesome joints. Until then, I will deal with my early-stage arthritis by chewing Extra Strength Tylenol early and often.
You just had to close your episode with "Forever Young" by Alphaville, didn't you? You just had to.
It's the one 80s synth-pop song guaranteed to make me burst into tears every. single. time. And then to throw it in like a sucker-punch right there are the end...
WAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!
(Actually, maybe I should blame David Byrne since he's the one who's responsible for the music on Big Love.)
And Nikki...WAAAAAAAHHHHHH! You're breaking my heart!
In other news, the fourth (or is it the fifth or sixth) debate round of white privilege, cultural appropriation, and racism in fandom has officially made me paranoid.
Ooooooh, no. I'm not getting involved. I poke my head up over the edge of that foxhole, I'm liable to get it shot off. I'm just going to keep my head down and avoid being beheaded, thanks.
It doesn't help that I can kinda see all sides here, BTW. I almost want to call for a Reconciliation Committee so everyone can just talk this shit out. I blame my UU soul for this kneejerk response.
In any case, good ol' Eva Swithin has once again (and finally) started tapping me on the shoulder because last we all saw her, she was stranded on the Mali Sahel with with the dire choice in front of her.
Except with all the yelling going on, I'm now officially paranoid about moving forward and fixing up those final nearly incomprehensible chapters of Facing the Heart in Darkness.
Gah!
I know, I know. It looks so bloody self-centered, doesn't it? Doesn't matter that there are legitimate grievances being aired and hurt feelings being felt on all sides of the multi-faceted fight that's been on-going now for (*checks watch*) weeks. Oh, no. I'm worried about my fanfiction. [/self-directed sarcasm]
Finally, just got back from a weekend with the 'rents. Dad is up and hobbling around.
But, he does want me to pass on a message:
While he appreciates all of your helpful advice, he would like to say this: "You all lie and your feet stink!"
(Oh, wait. That may have been directed at me...)
He has declared that he will throw himself on a grenade rather than go through the knee replacement operation again for his other knee. He will throw himself on a grenade rather than let anyone he actually cares about go through with a knee replacement operation.
However, if someone he doesn't like decides to go through with it, he will point, laugh, and buy popcorn for the sheer entertainment of it.
After the past two weeks of watching (and hearing) my Dad deal with the pain of replacement body parts, I've decided to hold out until they can grow cartilage in petri dish with some lovely stem cells as a base and inject it into troublesome joints. Until then, I will deal with my early-stage arthritis by chewing Extra Strength Tylenol early and often.
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Imho those kind of debates go round and round and round etc . . . I've seen it happen in a variety of fandoms for years. Its good, because everyone learns a little. Its good to have someone point out the privilege we are all swimming in - if only to help us see through eyes that aren't our own. And isn't that part of what we are doing by writing or reading fiction?
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I avoid those kind of debates too. I don't want to get shot down, and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, either, so I just say nothing.
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Oh, good. Then I'm not alone in my paranoia. On the one hand, it is good to stop and ponder such things. But on the other hand, when there's ten posts a day on metafandom, stretching back over at least a couple weeks, it's unsettling (and not in the stop, look, and learn sense of unsettling).
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Poor Sarah.
I hope Eva starts being cooperative. I've missed her.
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That whole racism/privilege/appropriation wrangle is very discouraging for many reasons, not the least of which is the fact that no one person can speak for an entire minority group. I think half the reason there's so much misunderstanding is that various people within any given group will say "My people want X" and X is a number of mutually exclusive things, and if a writer who is not a member of Group Y writes a book with a character in that group---even if she's taken pains to get approval from somebody who is---it's almost inevitable that some other member of the group will take umbrage with the portrayal. And one can't even avoid the risk of giving offense by refraining from portraying minority characters for fear of being accused of racism for not including minority characters.
It reminds me of a time I went to a Native American ceremony being conducted by some respected teachers, with the purpose of bringing a better understanding to white (and black, and brown, and a couple of Japanese visitors) people ... and the event was picketed by AIM because one group of Native Americans didn't think these teachers had the right to teach the proper way to behave in a sweatlodge. It was just... I don't know, it's necessary to make folks raised in the dominant culture aware of the cocoon of privelege, but when too many voices are raised in contradictory accusations, it's more likely to inspire frustration and indifference than respect or understanding.
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Except with all the yelling going on, I'm now officially paranoid about moving forward and fixing up those final nearly incomprehensible chapters of Facing the Heart in Darkness.
Forget the yelling, take a deep breath and listen to Eva. Please? :)
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Oh, please do!
Likewise got paranoid about my Tales of the First series.
I haven't followed the debate in detail. But personally I don't think it should discourage one from writing. Just be aware of the problem, be aware of and try to avoid at least the most obvious stereotypes and stupids - but also accept that, if one is a white person attempting to write about non-white characters and cultures one is going to get it wrong some times, and be willing to listen and learn if someone calls you on it, and not go "Waaaaah, but it's MY PERFECT STORY and I'm a nice non-racist liberal and how DARE you accuse me of racism!!!"
Glad to hear your dad's doing better.
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I seem to remember that this particular pain is better dealt with by acetylsalicylic acid. But I may remember wrong.
And I've heard that ibuprofin and acataminophen have similar effects, but independent side effects, so it's possible to takt the max dose of both for really severe pain.
And I probably misspelled some of those names.
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It may take six months or a year for him to really be to the point where he can fairly gauge the benefit of the surgery.