Hunh, so that was who that thread was directed at. Sorry I missed it, because I would have stepped in and defended you if I knew what the hell it was about.
That really is the ultimate gutless wonder, isn't it? Not just shiving someone in public, but shiving them in public to their face while hiding behind anonymity.
Look, I get FLocks and bitching about the behaviors of others that get up your nose. I have zero problem with it because, yeah, sometimes you see something that just flabbergasts you and you need to say something about it.
I've done it about a certain wank-tastic het-only fanfiction group where certain members spew some pretty hateful things and I've done it about inviduals (without naming them if I can help it). Sometimes you need to get it off your chest because it is bothersome when someone is acting like a total ass. But at least there's a name attached in a FLock. And it's sometimes nice to hear other people say that, no, you're not overreacting at all to the situation. It's a nice reality check.
I can even see complaining about someone's work anonymously if the person or their friends have a history of going after critics. Now me, I don't see the point doing it anonymously. If I'm not crazy about someone's work, I do try to back it up with some concrete examples of what bothers me from the story itself so it's clear that it's nothing personal and that it's just my opinion. Most people (95% of the people out there) are reasonable about it if you approach it from that angle.
Please, for awhile there I thought I was the only person on the planet that hated Repossession by Lazuli. It started promising and just...I have no idea what happened there. I think it was when she killed Riley a second time that I lost patience. But I've always made it clear that my problem was with the story itself and not the author (I didn't know her at all) and that it wasn't personal. Most people respected that, although I did get a few "yer jus' jellus" comments. But you're going to get that no matter what.
But personal attacks really do cross the line and that was definitely a personal attack from what I could see. Doing it anonymously to boot? That's just...it gives me the willies, to be honest, especially when they leave enough clues that they're on your FList. Jesus.
As for not leaving enough FB, I'm guilty of the same crime, really. Sometimes I get so tied up in my own stuff that I barely have time to properly respond to comments in my own journal. You provide a ton of links to other stories and you're busy with your contribution to fandom.
I think most people who know what you do understand that perfectly well.
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That really is the ultimate gutless wonder, isn't it? Not just shiving someone in public, but shiving them in public to their face while hiding behind anonymity.
Look, I get FLocks and bitching about the behaviors of others that get up your nose. I have zero problem with it because, yeah, sometimes you see something that just flabbergasts you and you need to say something about it.
I've done it about a certain wank-tastic het-only fanfiction group where certain members spew some pretty hateful things and I've done it about inviduals (without naming them if I can help it). Sometimes you need to get it off your chest because it is bothersome when someone is acting like a total ass. But at least there's a name attached in a FLock. And it's sometimes nice to hear other people say that, no, you're not overreacting at all to the situation. It's a nice reality check.
I can even see complaining about someone's work anonymously if the person or their friends have a history of going after critics. Now me, I don't see the point doing it anonymously. If I'm not crazy about someone's work, I do try to back it up with some concrete examples of what bothers me from the story itself so it's clear that it's nothing personal and that it's just my opinion. Most people (95% of the people out there) are reasonable about it if you approach it from that angle.
Please, for awhile there I thought I was the only person on the planet that hated Repossession by Lazuli. It started promising and just...I have no idea what happened there. I think it was when she killed Riley a second time that I lost patience. But I've always made it clear that my problem was with the story itself and not the author (I didn't know her at all) and that it wasn't personal. Most people respected that, although I did get a few "yer jus' jellus" comments. But you're going to get that no matter what.
But personal attacks really do cross the line and that was definitely a personal attack from what I could see. Doing it anonymously to boot? That's just...it gives me the willies, to be honest, especially when they leave enough clues that they're on your FList. Jesus.
As for not leaving enough FB, I'm guilty of the same crime, really. Sometimes I get so tied up in my own stuff that I barely have time to properly respond to comments in my own journal. You provide a ton of links to other stories and you're busy with your contribution to fandom.
I think most people who know what you do understand that perfectly well.
I know I do.
*huggs*
Don't let it get you down.